Anger is an emotion everyone experiences, and yet is one that produces
so much turmoil. This is especially obvious in children and adolescents
who struggle to regulate their emotions on a good day and are very hard
pressed to do well on bad days.
Below are four tips to help parents to better understand not only anger,
but also how to help their children express their anger in an appropriate manner.
First, anger is a secondary emotion. This means that a primary emotion was experienced first before changing
into anger. For example, a child is called a name by a peer, feels hurt,
and then becomes angry and retaliates.
Second, anger needs to be expressed. One of the worst things to do is bottle up that angry feeling. There are
four simple rules to expressing anger.
- Don’t hurt others.
- Don’t hurt yourself.
- Don’t destroy property.
- Do talk about it.
Three, figure out what coping skills work for your child. Some ideas would be the following:
- time away from others to “cool off”
- listening to music
- exercise—like going for a walk.
After your child is less angry, talk to them about what happened and connect
Four, make sure to reassure a child that if they handle their anger appropriately
they will not be in trouble to telling you how they feel. This seems like an easy thing for us to know but children are insecure
and if their history is of getting in trouble after being angry, they
will need this reassurance even more.
The Campbell County Medical Group
Kid Clinic is a school-based pediatric clinic offering medical care and counseling
services for Campbell County students in pre-kindergarten through 12th
grade and their siblings ages 2 weeks and up. It is located at 800 Butler
Spaeth Rd., across from St. Matthew’s Catholic Church. The Kid Clinic
is open Monday-Friday from 8 am-5 pm. For more information, call 307-688-8700 or visit
www.cchwyo.org/kidclinic. The Kid Clinic is a collaborative effort between Campbell County Health and
Campbell County School District.
This blog was written by
Brianne Wooldridge, LPC, Kid Clinic Counselor